Posted by: thaufler | June 28, 2010

Forgive me but…

…why am I always surprised when God answers prayer?

In an earlier post we made you aware of the extraordinary care Evan has received from his foster-mother, and the hope that somehow we could help her as well in this transition. We learned that our attorney’s desire in moving Evan from her care to the orphanage temporarily was born from concern that her emotional state may negatively impact him when the exchange was made. When we shared with him our hope to meet her, and in doing so, to learn more about Evan’s needs he did what he could to insure we could see them both.

After many calls and driving in circles near their home we did make it and here is my feeble attempt to share about this event (pictures later). Our driver pulled up in what seemed like an alley while our attorney exclaimed, “This is it, this is it!”. He went in first to make sure it was okay and came out saying Evan was asleep, and perhaps another time would be better. We said we would wait a bit and the next thing I knew we were all following him into the dark entrance, down a long dark hall laden with rubbish and through a curtain over the opening of this small bedroom size home for three. Evan was lying asleep on the bed. The other girl in her care was rocking back and forth on the corner of the same bed, and the foster-mom was standing in the corner next to the opening that served as a window. So here we are, all standing here looking at Evan in almost disbelief after 2.5 years coming to the realization that yes, this child we have only known through pictures does exist. For what seemed like a very long time, none of us knowing what to do, I felt someone brush by me in the room and I turned to see Alicia walking very deliberately towards the foster-mother.

She walked over, stood on her tiptoes and threw her arms around the neck of this dear woman, who returned the embrace and immediately started crying which provoked a like response from us all. Moments later she walked Alicia over to the bed, and turned over Evan to wake him (more later)…

We all left in complete shock and disbelief at how well it went, and even though Alicia didn’t bring her “list” of questions for Evan’s caregiver, we learned when we arrived back home that every question had been answered…

I’m learning more and more that it’s the process that produces the crown jewel of our faith, which is the knowledge of God’s own Son Jesus Christ. It’s the process that God uses, orchestrates, and ordains to work this miracle in us… this miracle of sanctification, and every piece no matter how painful is designed to bring Him glory. We are just cracked broken pots (2 Cor 4:7), and He uses these cracked broken pots to shine His glory through, and the brightness of His glory was evident yesterday through Alicia.



  1. Oh my. God is sooo good in so many ways that are unmentionable. Questions answered without Alicia’s list is one of many. I am praying, and praying for your return with your son. Will pray for adoption hearing to go well and without any hold ups. Your flight difficulties were just a stepping stone to the real prize, Evan.

    Be Blessed…Mary

  2. Ohhhh Tim and Alicia, I have been reading these updates on this wonderful journey you are on, and like Kim Lee, I am laughing and crying at the same time. Thank you for sharing these very personal moments with us all.
    What I really want to say is how encouraging your words are to my spirit, to really feel the love you have for Alicia, to feel the love of Christ through your marriage, and how that ozzes out to love others you have never met. This gives me even more faith for my marriage. Thank you. With great love for your family, Crystal Mihansky

  3. I’m just keeping a box of tissues by my comptuer from now on~ God is so amazing & loves you all so very much, as do we. I am so happy for you & sad at the same time becasue I can not even begin to imagine what the care-taker goes through daily. Pray over that little girl that whatever spirit is over her is gone in Jesus’ name so she can have a joy all children should have~ you can do it quietly the next time you are there, if you can just but touch her shoulder~ AMEN!!!

  4. Beautiful!

  5. Okay, where’s my tissues?! Wiping my eyes though tears of joy 🙂 Alicia, your strength, your love, your mothering is beautiful 🙂

  6. One thing I left out… the Foster-Mother once she releases Evan has no means of support. The older child she cares for has aged out of the system so she gets no funds for her care, but continues to support her. Please continue to pray for her…

  7. (Just reading this….catching up in reverse order.) Wow! God’s love communicated through Alicia broke down all the walls. Praise God! “Love never fails.” 1 Cor. 13:8

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